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26 year-old female from Boise, ID
Junior engineering student, loves games and movies and science... yeah... and marching band.
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What is it about jerks?
I'm pretty close to my dad, he's a friend I could talk to about almost anything. I like to think that he's a good guy in general. All my life, he's been a ladies man, never alone, and most of them "hot". When a friend of mine was asking me about what women like about men, about how to meet a girl and keep her around, I sent him to my dad.
After the lengthy phone call, I asked my friend what he said. "Apparently, I just need to be an a**hole, and they will flock all around me." Is this true?
Look at all romantic comedies. Every single one of them starts with an amazing girl who's dating some jerk, and none of them realize it until the end when the perfect man sweeps them off of their feet. It brings up the question: what attracts women to jerks in the first place?
I've dated a jerk or two, and it's never pretty. You know he's not right for you, that you deserve better, but you can't seem to let go. There is always a reason to keep going. I know for me, it was always the hope that he would grow up and maybe turn into a decent person. I didn't want to change him, but I was still waiting, hoping, for a change.
You'd be an idiot to go into a relationship that you knew wasn't going to be good for you. So why do we do it? Their charm? The rebel inside? Not knowing that there is better out there?
I spent over two years with someone I couldn't let go. I knew that I wouldn't ultimately be happy with him. I knew our values and morals didn't line up. I didn't like the things he was involved in. I could never see myself having a family with him. But I could never find a reason enough to be finished with him. I knew he was a horrible person, that there was a likely chance that he had cheated on me, but I could always make up a reason to not dump him. "It will make things too complicated... I'll wait until he graduates... until I graduate... I really think he's ready to work on us..." It was all crap. Every excuse. I knew he was bad for me, but I didn't want to be out of it.
It was only after a summer away, him telling me the truth about a lie, and finding a new friend with fresh eyes to help me see that I was able to let him go.
And I've never been happier.
Have you ever known you were with a jerk, but couldn't let him/her go?
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Rebecca | | Occupation |
research assistant | | Birthday |
January 4th, 1986 | | Interests |
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